It felt like magic, but I knew it was intentional. I created 20 extra minutes in each of my days the month of November.

It is something many of us say, “If only I had more time, then I ……” You fill in the blank.

So, what did I do differently to create this extra time? I deleted Facebook off my phone and allowed myself only 5 minutes on Facebook a day.

What I noticed about myself over the past few months was a feeling of lonely, stress, and lack of time.  At the end of the day or before starting a big project I would catch myself glued to my phone and lost in social media world.

Staring at all the smiling faces, outdoor adventures and business successes, I was feeling less than adequate. It was a self-fulfilling prophecy – I feel alone, so I will scan Facebook and prove that my life does not quite suffice compared to all these smiling happy faces. I started tracking how much time I was spending on Facebook it was about 20 – 50 minutes a day! And it was not nourishing or productive time.

I desired a Facebook detox! So I hit delete and made my month long commitment. Now I have an extra 20 – 50 minutes a day.

What I am doing with my extra time.

I called old friends, I made homemade Christmas gifts, I wrote three hand-written cards to friends, my husband and I danced in the kitchen, I painted a room in our house that desperately needed it. Most importantly, I felt more alive, happier and less anxious.

I was not constantly comparing myself to others brilliant, thriving and prosperous lives. I was living my own.

Take a moment and reflect, where do you put your time and energy in a day? Do you feel fulfilled at the end of the day or exhausted? Do you wish you had more time and less stress? Each of us creates our lives by our thoughts, words, and actions. Tony Robbins states, “It is in your moments of decision that your destiny is shaped.”

I challenge you, the next time you are about to jump on social media, ask yourself – what am I hoping for here?

What would you like to do with your time?

Now picture what you might do with your time if you have 20 extra minutes a day. Make a mental list of all the things you would like to do.

  • Learn the guitar
  • Reconnect with an old friend
  • Paint
  • Exercise
  • Meditate
  • Yoga
  • Make a home cooked meal
  • What is on your list?

Today you have an opportunity. What will you do?

Know someone in your life who is feeling stressed, lonely or pressed for time. Share this article with them and let them know what it meant to you.