Are we serious?
For fear of hearing something you don’t want to hear, you may put off asking the vital question: where is the relationship now and where is it headed? You may be the woman and be expecting him to speak up. Or you may be the man waiting for her to say something. Neither one of you budges. The solution? Share an uncomfortable truth to break the ice and reach a level of trust you didn’t have before. Put away the gender roles. It’s everyone’s responsibility to communicate. Then you will learn what you value in a good relationship. Molly Hillig Rodriguez, My Dating Life My Choice
Are we serious? This was usually a question I avoided. I rarely even knew if I was serious or I just wanted the attention of a man. Therefore, a lot of my pseudo-relationships slid into just long-term hangout sessions, void of commitment and communication. By that time I usually felt too uncomfortable to have the “are we serious?” conversation, so the relationship just went on until one of us bailed. I learned the hard way, this pattern does not birth love.
Fruitful relationships a born when two people step into their courage and take a risk, a risk for love. They have the “are we serious?” conversation. The moment when you lay your heart on the line and hope the other person feels the same. This conversation is so important to the future of the relationship, it sets up future conversations for truth and honesty?
So where are you on the relationship spectrum? In the “hangout zone” or the “fully committed” it is never the wrong time to have a meaningful conversation. Is this a conversation you usually avoid? If you are not getting the relationship results that you want and you are looking for real love, it may be time to step into this powerful conversation.
I want to hear how it goes or what may be holding you back.