I was having a conversation with my husband Chris and he blurted out “I am kind of bored in our relationship.”
Hearing his words my heart sank, but I took a moment to reflect. It was true, we have moved from whimsically in love to the long-term intimacy. We come home cook dinner, eat, quickly check our emails and hit the hay. Not so hot or alive. I started doing some research on this subject.
Are you in a rut or monotonous routine in your relationship or dating?
This short video blog will share 3 important facts about being in a rut that you can use to change up your system and feel alive.
Here are the 3 Important facts about being in a rut in your relationship or dating:
- Know that it is ok. Relationships move through 3 phases of love – Lust, Attraction & Attachment. When you have created a certain level of intimacy with your partner it is the called the Attachment phase. This phase is important in love, our body releases oxytocin and vasopressin to keep us connected and loyal to our partners. So it is OK to be in a routine sometimes.
- The human brain looks for novelty! As humans, we are always looking for the latest and greatest. That is why doing new things as a couple is sooooooo important. The brain will get bored with routine. Look for something fun and new to do in your community and plan a date. Here is an article from Tiny Buddha to learn more – http://tinybuddha.com/blog/grow-old-together-without-growing-bored/
- You have the power to change it. There is only one person in this world that can change your perception and attitude, you. If you want something different take responsibility to make a change. Shift the routine tonight in your life and see what happens.
That is the gift of being human – we desire routine and simplicity and when we have it we want something else. We can constantly evolve and grow if we choose to. So spice things up a bit in your love life.
What are you thoughts about being bored in relationships? We would love to hear from you; please leave a comment below.
Speaking from the heart,
Molly Hillig Rodriguez